Monday, March 30, 2009
Blog from facebook.
Old blog from myspace and ebay
You can find almost everything on eBay. I was just browsing the website when I saw this thing on its boards
http://forums.ebay.com/db1/thread.jspa?threadID=2000598906&tstart=80&mod=1215718390822
Confusing, isn't it?
Are you someone no one listens to?
capt.steel (641) 
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Jul-05-08 21:31 PDT
I'm wondering if there are other people out there who have this experience?
I just came home from a party and have had the usual experience in social situations where I am simply ignored or interrupted whenever I open my mouth and am virtually alienated by both those I know (the same people who say what a nice person I am) and complete strangers in any group conversations.
Blowhards, braggarts, "know-it-alls" and those who never know when to stop talking seem to have every word hung on as if they are great orators, but there's something about my starting to speak that seems to trigger an immediate interruption in every situation.
Because of this I tend to be quiet in social situations, so when I do have something to say it's usually insightful and it seems like people might find it interesting if anyone ever allowed me a second or two to actually complete a statement.
In one on one situations I tend to do better if someone takes the time to converse with me. I'm fairly intelligent, I'm told by those who have given me a chance that I have a great deal of common sense and a deep sincerety, I'm well versed in many subjects but can still be very deep on issues closer to the heart, I'm empathic to others feelings, great at listening and considering the opinions of others, but I'm careful not to interrupt or dominate conversations and try to practice the consideration of never trying to sound like I know better than others.
i.e. I never treat others the way they treat me by disregarding what they have to say, publicly interrupting them when it's their turn to speak or cutting them off.
You'd think eventually karma would kick in and people would maybe practice the golden rule of treating others with the same respect they'd enjoy receiving (and do receive from me.)
So I just don't get why I can never say anything in a group setting without being interrupted usually right at the point where I was making a point.
And it seems universal for me - it's not just with a particular group - it's happened at meetings at my various jobs, in different groups of friends and at the social functions of different families.
Books say that those who are regarded as the most interesting people and most popular conversationalists in social circles are those who are actually the best listeners.
I find this to be untrue. I'm told I'm a great listener - I can always find someone who wants to talk TO me, but not few who want to talk WITH me.
I've found that those who get the most ear time are also the loudest, the rudest, the crudest, the most likely to interrupt others, or those who have some aggressive, overwhelming opinion on whatever the topic might be that they have to interject over whoever else might be talking to show how much more THEY know about the subject than anyone else.
Probably one of the reasons I'm so wordy on these boards is because I'm never allowed the opportunity to express myself in real life!
Another phenomenon is; I may say something clever or make a joke in a group and no one will respond, but a few seconds later someone else will say the exact same thing (as if it just came to them) and everyone will laugh or comment on how clever the person is who just repeated what I said.
Anyone else have this or similar experiences? (And what's the best way to deal with it?)
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